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Victoria BC Counselling & Therapy Blog

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How "Self-Love" Misses the Mark

Laura Brown

There’s a popular idea out there in self-help land, which I’ve heard over and over and over again:

“You just need to love yourself more! If only you had unconditional love for yourself, your life would be complete.”

Self-love is presented as this thing that you have to create within yourself, and can’t be dependent upon anyone else’s love for you. It is often described as something that is missing in our lives – an ideal that we should all be striving for.

You've probably been introduced to this idea yourself at some point along your journey. If you're working on addressing things in your life, it's hard to miss it. Read on to learn how I came to question the "self-love" dogma, and the perspective that came to find far more helpful to my own self-development work.

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3 Crucial Factors For Creating (and Sustaining) Change In Your Life

Laura Brown

The process of creating meaningful life changes is rarely easy. We can find ourselves feeling stuck, and learn some hard lessons along the way. In this post, Laura Brown offers deeply personal insights on 3 crucial factors for creating change, which she learned the hard way through her own self-development work.

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What I Wish I Knew About Handling Fears, Doubts, and Worries

Laura Brown

Fear is naturally something to be avoided.  That’s how it works!  It tells you, “that thing might not be safe”, and you, as the smart person you are, do what you can to keep bad things from happening.

You’ve also probably experienced how it can be counter-productive to listen to your fears all the time. While they largely have your best interests in mind, they can also show up when you have an opportunity to challenge yourself and grow.

In this post, Laura Brown offers her hard earned knowledge on how to keep fears, doubts, and worries from stopping you along the path toward bringing your desires to life.

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Depression or Dilemma? How Context Makes the Difference Between Feeling Stuck and Empowered

Will Bratt

As therapists, we have a lot of conversations with people who describe their suffering as “depression”. Though “depression” can mean something different from one person to another, there is often a common element of feeling stuck with a sense of profound despair. However, for many people, depression isn't just about feeling stuck in that despair, but about the real world factors that constrain their capacities to make their lived experiences better. In this post Will Bratt illustrates how it can be empowering to look more at the broader context behind the depression.

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How To Get to the Heart of What You Really Want to Change

Laura Brown

If you’re just on the cusp of giving therapy a shot, but aren’t sure exactly what you want help with, fear not. This is actually one way counsellors can be really helpful. A great way to start the process of identifying what you do want to change is by reflecting on what’s not working for you. Read this post for a little help and guidance through that process.

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Why Understanding Context is the Key for Effective Therapy

Will Bratt

Do you ever have the feeling that something isn’t right in your life, but you can’t quite put your finger on what it is?  Or maybe you know very well how things aren’t working, but you struggle to see why? When you feel stuck and are struggling to make sense of it all, talking with a counsellor who can help you see the bigger picture can make a world of difference. Read on to learn how!

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The Benefit of Knowing What You Don't Want

Laura Brown

You know that you want something in your life to be different, even if the specific thing you want to change isn’t quite clear. As unlikely as it may sound, this is an important and necessary place for you to be, as your feelings are giving you the loud and clear message that you need something better. In this post, Laura Brown illustrates how identifying what you don't want can help you better recognize what you do.

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